“If you’re reading this book, welcome! To understand the impact that childhood sexual abuse has on the adult is not an easy journey to make, but one which will, I hope, help you to finally Move Past the Past.
For the partners of survivors, or for the parents and family of survivors, this book is for you too.
Moving Past the Past will help you to understand yourself, (or your partner, child, sister or brother), in a way that you never thought possible. It will show you why you (they) behave ‘like that,’ and why you (they) react ‘like that.’ It will show you what the triggers are that create those reactions and help you to understand them. For the adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse who experience these reactions, it will show you how you can release and overcome them.
Many survivors find a lifetime of chaos, broken relationships, multiple jobs, multiple homes, destructiveness, insecurity and illness (physical, mental and emotional.) My hope for you, is that this book will help you with Moving Past the Past and into security, stability, wellness, inner peace and tranquillity; to strengthen your relationships with yourself, and with others, and to move towards a peaceful and stable life.
What’s in a name? Many object to the term ‘survivor,’ others object to the term ‘victim.’ If you are still reacting, suffering and responding to your childhood abuse, then I believe that you are still a ‘victim’ of that abuse. Once that reaction has gone, you may consider yourself to be a ‘survivor.’ For now, throughout this book, I will refer to us as, ‘Survivors.’ Whichever term you prefer, the aim of this book is to get you to the point in your life where you are neither – the name, label or definition will be irrelevant, no longer important; you are simply someone who experienced childhood sexual abuse long ago.
For us to make changes, we need first to understand – understanding is the key! To understand why we do what we do is the first step to being able to change the old patterns, reactions, responses and triggers. The journey throughout this book will help you to do just this. It is filled with studies, information, explanations, and other people’s stories, as well as exercises for you to follow.
It is my hope for you that this book will help you to find your way through the maze of destruction that being an ‘adult survivor of childhood sexual abuse’ often brings; to let it go, to find your way out of the cycle of despair and destruction, and to finally be able to ‘Move Past the Past.’
This book covers incest, grooming, trauma, PTSD, (post traumatic stress disorder), revictimisation, mental and physical health impacts and much more.
Moving Past the Past: A Guide for Adult Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse
Text Copyright © 2017 Julie Poole
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Moving Past the Past: A Guide for Adult Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse. First Published 2017
Published by J.P. Publishing
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Paperback ISBN 978-0-9933522-8-7
Ebook ISBN: 978-0-9933522-9-4